Sometimes, the denser emotions like anxiety, isolation, depression or sadness, can feel debilitating or crippling, and we can‘t see a way forward.
If you’ve ever experienced this and you’d like a hand up, then I’d like to share a mindset-shifting-practice with you that has really helped me through those darker periods. I hope it helps you too.
1. Your emotions are like data.
Try thinking of your emotions like data – like a light going off on your car dashboard. They’re telling you something, and it’s up to you what you do with the information.
In the case of anxiety, for me it might mean that I’m doing something I’m not meant to be doing, or, I’m NOT doing something that I’m meant to be doing.
2. Have the “I call BS” conversation.
I try and get really clear on what that is. I call it my “I call bullshit” discussion. I turn and face the situation, which can sometimes take courage, and I ask myself “what is this really about?” and “what can I do about it?”.
This might take a few tries to get to the nub of it because sometimes I’m avoiding/concealing the truth even from myself. It might take a bit of courage and soul searching, but try and get really real with yourself. Is what’s pissing you off reeeeeally what’s pissing you off? Or is there something deeper going on. Are concealing or hiding from the truth, even from yourself? If so, shout “I call BS!” and keep digging.
The reason or cause behind your feeling upset or anxious might not be what you think at first.
3. Be proactive.
In Tibetan Buddhist philosophy they have a saying, which loosely translated means:
If you can do something about it, why worry.
If you can’t do something about it, then why worry?
The more you can start to treat your emotions like a warning light, the more you’ll be able to asses the situation more calmly, take stock of what’s really going on, assess what’s within your power to control. Then, you can choose your response, be the captain of your ship.
4. Make friends with your emotions.
Through the practice of regular meditation, I’ve cultivated the technique of making friends with my emotions, treating each one as a guest in my house.Whether light or shade, high vibration or low, they are all messengers at the end of the day.